Something I Have Never Really Talked About

While I am being super transparent on my social channels I want to confess something I have struggled with from the age of 18.

The first self development book I read was called 'The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People' by Stephen Covey.

Once I put that specific book down it was a blessing and a curse.

A blessing because it gave me a new set of eyes.

Eyes that saw possibility and what could be achieved through hard work and the right habits.

A curse because I saw the level of success other people had.

The financial wealth they accumulated.

The fulfilment they had in the relationships they prioritised.

The freedom of their lifestyle.

The happiness and gratitude they carried daily.

Once I saw what was possible a constant feeing of not being good enough has followed me every single day.

Sometimes it cripples me and causes me to procrastinate.

Sometimes I don't even notice it.

Sometimes I even think how stupid that is.

But it's real, too real.

Brings me to tears in stressful times of my life that only my close friends know of.

I don't know if this feeling will disappear one day or hang around until I'm 6 feet under but one thing I know is that it will not stop me doing what I've been put on this earth to achieve.

Everyone has their struggles and insecurities.

We know that but there is one thing I want you to understand.

We are not defined by our struggles, we are defined by how we deal with them.

Even if we overcome one thing, there will always be another obstacle to tackle.

There will always be something.

We must come to a place of acceptance with this idea and acknowledge that we aren't defined by our struggles but by how we deal with it.

Whatever that may be, you are bigger than it.

"WE ARE NOT DEFINED BY OUR STRUGGLES, WE ARE DEFINED BY HOW WE DEAL WITH THEM."
B. Ashby, 2019.