Dealing With What Life Throws At You

Recently I have found out that one of my clients has lost her mum.

This email is not going to be about fitness.

It's going to be about how to deal with grief.

I lost my mum at 12 years old, I'm very open about it.

My client lost her mum at a much older age than I did but that doesn't mean it's any easier.

Losing someone is never easy and I want to share three ways to help deal with grief.

I am not a psychologist but I have experienced real HARDSHIP as have you.

And this is where I have learnt a lot by myself.

This is how I dealt with loss and I want to share with you how I did it so it may help you one day.

You don't have to lose your mum...

You could break up with a girlfriend, get fired at work or simply feel unhappy.

1) Grieve.

2) Surround yourself with positivity.

3) Express how you feel.

The first thing to do is grieve.

Cry if you need to cry, laugh if you want to laugh, be angry if you want to be angry.

Let it out so it doesn't bottle up and erupt like a volcano later on in life.

The second thing is to get around positive people.

Mentors, family, friends, elders, pastors...

Whoever brings positivity to you, get around them.

The third thing to do is express how you feel.

I did through singing and songwriting at 12 years old but you could do something else.

Draw.

Dream (new ideas, new thoughts, innovation).

Work.

Travel.

Do something that you love that will help you focus on something other than what has just happened.

It can help give you perspective and potentially see the reasoning why something like this has happened.

Fuel you with inspiration.

Fill you with motivation.

It's hard to see why bad things happen to us.

Especially when they fall from the sky and come out of nowhere but let me finish with this...

Everything happens for a reason.

One day we may see it.

One day we may not.

One thing I know is that if I didn't lose my mum at a young age, I wouldn't be doing what I do now because I wouldn't appreciate the value of life and what it feels like to lose it.

You are not alone.

Much love.